Years ago, I belonged to a writing club, and we published a newsletter with short stories and poetry, mainly of a science fiction theme. The group motto was: "There are always possibilities". When writing science fiction or fantasy, there are always options. You can do whatever you want with your character--have them suddenly have the ability to fly, shrink them to the size of an ant, or even have them meet William Shakespeare. The power is yours.
The same in our everyday life. We are limited only by what we cannot imagine. I used to live in a Safe House for battered women as a liaison worker in the home. I would have weekly chat sessions with the women in the house, and I was at first shocked that few of these women had any kind of image of themselves outside of the situation they were in.
I would pose a question. "If someone offered to pay for your education for four years so you could go to college or university, and they would pay your rent, your food, your transportation and child care--what would you study? What job would you love to do?"
They couldn't come up with an answer. The idea of getting out of their situation wasn't even a possibility for them. For many of these women, actually attending college or taking courses, especially with government funding and grants available, was a very real option for them, but because they could not picture themselves ever succeeding in this way, they were unable to take that first step. In fact, two-thirds of the battered women in that Safe House would go back to the person who had beaten them up. He was better than nothing, they felt. Maybe he would change, they would say.
There are always possibilities. True. But only if you are willing to look for them. Only if you are willing to step out of your 'safe' box, and explore the unknown.
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"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined." Henry David Thoreau